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read We Need to Talk About Kevin mobi ↠ Paperback á The gripping international bestseller about motherhood gone awryEva never really wanted to be a mother and certainly not the mother of the unlovable boy who murdered seven of his fellow high school students a cafeteria worker and a much adored teacher who tried to befriend himRespondences with her estranged husband Franklin Uneasy with the sacrifices and social demotion of motherhood from the start Eva fears that her alarming dislike for her own son may be responsible for driving him so nihilistically off the rai Immediate reaction after reading I’m so horrified that I feel sick and I’m nearly crying not because of Kevin but for Kevin and I don’t know who to blame any or what to feel or what to think I only know that this book is unlike anything I’ve ever read and in all likelihood will ever readHow can I so deeply love a book that is this agonisingly ugly?? Full review I knew before I started that reading this was going to be hard We Need to Talk about Kevin is listed as one of the most disturbing books on GR So in an attempt to limit the coming agony I made a few rulesRULE 1 Do not get emotionally involvedRULE 2 Do not take sidesRULE 3 Do not dwell on the disturbing partsA hundred pages later when I put the book down and went to bed only to replay and obsess over Eva’s commentary in my head I realised my rules were long brokenI got emotionally involved I always do I wish I could say that Eva's so horrible that I couldn't relate to her but a teeny tiny part of me did especially at the start Crying babies terrify me and I’ve always harboured a lot of reservations about having kids I’m not saying I never want to have kids; that would be a stupid thing to say considering I wasn’t even an adult four years ago But I’m the kind of girl who gets a panic attack when she's asked to babysit her hyperactive nephewsI took sides Right from the start I unconsciously sided with Eva True the way she thought of her son repulsed me at times but I felt Kevin’s actions were repulsive For me Kevin was uintessentially evil and Eva was the poor woman who had the misfortune of bearing him The fact that she didn’t want to have him in the first place just seemed to make her of a victimAs for not dwelling on the disturbing partswell there are NO PARTS The book in entirety is a systematically harrowing tale with no escape The only way to skip the distress would be to stop reading the book itself and while that thought did cross my mind the bibliophile in me couldn’t stay away So I persisted I bore the mental anguish I let Eva’s commentary drill into my brainAnd that's my answer to why I love this ugly ugly book It caused me to recoil in horror so many times but also made me come back to it every single time Every minute I was reading I wanted to stop; yet when I put the book down I wanted to pick it up again Like being addicted to something unpleasant and craving it even when that voice in your head begs you not toThis is an uncharacteristically long review but there’s one last thing I want to add This book left me with a uestion that’s bothered me for days Like I said I’ve always been on Eva’s side but the last 4 pages made me reconsider I mean whatever Kevin did is inexcusable and gruesome and I still feel for Eva but who’s the culprit and who’s the victim? What’s the cause and what’s the effect?Is Eva such a cold mother because Kevin is who he is? Or did Kevin become who he is because Eva is such a cold mother?In the end who do we really need to talk about? Kevin? Or Eva?I’ve ruminated over this uestion for days but I feel it’s best to leave it unanswered Because whatever the truth may be it’s bound to be hideous “It must be possible to earn a devotion by testing an antagonism to its very limit to bring people closer through the very act of pushing them away Because after three days short of eighteen years I can finally announce that I am too exhausted and too confused and too lonely to keep fighting and if only out of desperation or even laziness I love my son”

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The gripping international bestseller about motherhood gone awryEva never really wanted to be a mother and certainly not the mother of the unlovable boy who murdered seven of his fellow high school students a cafeteria worker and a much ador The pull uote on the cover of the edition I read suggests that it's impossible to put this book down That's almost entirely false Out of the book's 400 pages the first 300 were kind of like pulling teeth Creepy maternal teeth The last 100 pages however were actually and physically impossible to look away from and the brisk pace of the climax after so many pages of buildup actually created a really wonderful complete story that was very satisfying and which god help me made me cry out of a bizarre sense of happiness at the endThis book is a series of letters irritating written from a travel writer wife unsympathetic and irritating to her separated husband tiresome and given 20 seconds and a familiarity with Western literature leading up to an entirely transparent twist These letters start out being about her day to day life and a mediation on their slowly decimated marriage something I really can't relate to but soon they become All About Kevin Kevin being their oldest kid their son and who recently in 2000 shot up a bunch of his fellow high schoolers It's a post Columbine book set in pre 911 America and it's freakishly refreshing to read an entire novel about a national tragedy that neither mentions nor cares about terrorists threat levels Ira or What's Wrong With America?Actually it's vaguely framed around the Florida debacle in the 2000 presidential elections but that event is used to throw into relief how little political issues matter when your family has been destroyed For the most part the narrator Eva talks about Kevin why she decided to have him what it was like to raise him and examine the ways in which she failed as a mother and a wifeIt's weirdly inspiring I mean she is a bad mom Not beating the kids bad but neglectful cold self centeredshe is essentially the kind of woman who could only love a child if that was all she had left And so in a way she ends up raising a child who in a bid for her affection will take everything else away from her It's both sick and touching and a fascinating examination of how we're supposed to move on from tragedy how life continues no matter how much you wish it didn'tKevin himself is perfectly written both sympathetic and absolutely monstrous By the time he's 14 and terrorizing his mother behind his father's back I found myself completely unsurprised by everything as it unfolded Of course he ended up killing 11 people Of course he doesn't regret it Of course I'm not sure at what point if any decent parenting could have saved him and I like that Lionel Shriver managed to write a lengthy book without answering or even addressing that uestionWhat struck me as the most disturbing thing in the long run and what's stuck with me most is that the only thing that seems to scare the kid and the only thing that seems to at least begin to make him snap out of his narcissistic power trip is his impending transfer from juvie to the gen pop of a federal prison The book never gets into it but I found it deeply upsetting that the prison system is so horrible mass murderers are scared of it I kind of felt as if we're supposed to be happy that Kevin's actually scared but I mostly was just creeped out that the system itself had managed to create something even worse than Kevin

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We Need to Talk About KevinEd teacher who tried to befriend him all two days before his sixteenth birthday Now two years later it is time for her to come to terms with marriage career family parenthood and Kevin's horrific rampage in a series of startlingly direct cor I did not like this book Honestly what was to like about it? The topic is horrifying the characters are hateful and not just the characters that commit mass murders and the writing style is the worst of all From the first page I was SO irritated by the writing I'll bet that the first purchase Ms Shriver made after finding a publisher for this book was a new thesaurus I'm positive that hers was absolutely worn out It was like Hi Let's see how fancy we can sound Especially for a book that is supposedly made up of letters written to one's estranged husband The letter format was an especially poorly chosen literary device I get that we the reader needed background but did Eva really think that her husband needed to be reminded among other things about all the random little details of his childhood? They were his memories after all Why did she need to repeat them to him and in such an arrogant condescending way? And the lists of other school shootings Blah I became extremely tired of reading about those as Eva ticked them off I felt like I was hearing a lecture or a compilation of NPR news stories But speaking of arrogant and condescending here's another problem that I had with this book I happen to reject the idea that the parents are 100% responsible for their children's failures or successes Some children have crappy parents and turn out great and I've seen the opposite happen as well However if any parent could cause a child to go crazyhomicidal it would be this woman Hello being borednot a good reason to have a child Did I really need to say that? Eva was mean negative and overbearing throughout the book And again I realize that with the letter format we are only getting the viewpoint of one limited character but that's not an excuse for making the characters so completely one dimensional Kevin was evil Celia was demure Franklin was naive Eva was obnoxious etc Finally the uestion of the big reveal And I actually do have a uestion about this It was pretty obvious what was going on that there was going to be a big reveal after about page 3 of the book and I'm not talking about the fact that Kevin killed his classmates That was not meant to be a secret It was written in the description on the back of the book My uestion is this was this just poorly written so that what was meant to be a big reveal was well not? Or did Shriver make it obvious on purpose in order to make it awful to read we knew what was going to happen and we didn't want to read it but we were going to have to and were coming closer to it with each page I'm going to give Shriver the benefit of the doubt on this one because if that's what she meant to do it worked